When Demetria Obilor started her job as a traffic reporter for Dallas-based TV station ABC Dallas two weeks ago, she did not know that she would become an internet sensation and spawn a hashtag: #BigMad.
After a programme last week, one of the viewers of the TV station posted this hateful rant on Facebook, talking about how Demetria’s “16/18” body shouldn’t be squeezed into a “size 6 dress“. Honestly, all I read was a bitter, racist white woman trying to cover her prejudice under the umbrella of “genuine concern”.
Well, for the sake of research we took a look at the said dress and all we saw was total bodacious hotness!
Ain’t nothing wrong with that!
When I looked at her all I saw was a gorgeous, deliciously curvy woman with amazing #naturalhair rocking a dress that she was wearing to hell and back. Like, damn girl!
Of course, when the internet got wind of this, they clapped back with a wave of unprecedented positivity. Twitter user @fabfreshandfly posted a screenshot of the facebook post with the tag “Jan is big mad. Don’t be like Jan” and ChanceTheRapper replied with “BIIIIIIG MAD”, and within hours Demetria had gotten such a huge outpouring of love and support from all the corners of the internet that she replied with a heartwarming video.
In the wake of this controversy, Demetria posted a screenshot of some of the hate mail she gets from viewers of the TV station, with one of them saying her hair is “unprofessional” and “not properly washed”. That such ignorance and racism still thrives is appalling. The body shaming, colour shaming and curl shaming of women of colour is not new. As Demetria said in her video, once you look or sound or are different people start to talk to you different. We have endured this hate for so long, but with people like Demetria standing up for themselves and for every black woman out there, we are claiming back the right to look and dress and be what we are.
Demetria’s boldness in rocking her natural hair on TV(something which used to be unheard of) is a step in the right direction and she stands as an icon for young black girls out there who are considering a career in media or film. She may not have set out to be anyone’s role model or example, but by living out loud, she has set a standard.
Haters gon’ hate, boo boo, and we love you for doing you.
And as for the bigots out there, we will continue to make you famous for your hate until you see the light.