THE ROLE OF PORN IN SEX EDUCATION

Yes, and please don’t you dare shake your head at the title. Porn is the teacher, teaching our kids (most especially the boys) what to do when it comes to sex, since we are too prudish or bluenosed to talk to our kids about sex. Porn is now the only sex education our kids get.

Boys are the ones mostly influenced negatively by porn.  And in the same way boys are not taught about marriage, they are also not taught a thing about sex.

And what is wrong with porn?

Porn is a culture, and like other cultures it influences tremendously.  And catering for a more experiment inclined population, it promotes aggression. Porn teaches boys about sex, but everything wrong with sex. It promotes an unhealthy version of gender inequality, where women are merely bitches to be bent over and fucked. This comes from its promotion of violence, its promotion of lewd language, and the ridiculous idea of how women love it rough. Then there is the toxic masculinity, where the man is the crown king who controls the entire process, the one to get erect and pound the ass, the one to revel in phallic glory. It teaches nothing about respect, about choice, and about discipline.

On the premises of pleasure and mastering the art of lovemaking, it teaches absolutely nothing. Porn doesn’t teach a man the rudiments of pleasuring and satisfying his partner, teaches nothing about sex etiquette and rape culture.

Porn often portrays sex as being mechanical, a mostly impatient act that has to do with a lot of shoving and energy, totally devoid of feelings and emotions. Also, it teaches nothing about sexual safety, about contraceptives or birth control. And since most porn videos lean towards aggression and subservience of the female, it indirectly promotes rape. This is because it promotes violence (both physical and verbal) against the female in the video.  Another demeaning aspect to mainstream porn is its portrayal of females as being shallow, obsequiously submissive, and powerless under a man’s touch.

I believe this lax attitude most parents have towards educating their boys about sex comes from the mindset that boys are not really “victims”, but victimisers. And this is entirely wrong. Parents should make out time to teach their kids about sex, to teach them about respect and discipline, and not leave everything entirely for the internet.