Men are often very critical of feminists and what they stand for, but I feel like they are missing the point of what feminism is all about. For those who claim that they cannot marry or date a feminist, I am here to call your bluff. You know that in your mind you admire her strength and resolve, the way she takes charge of her destiny and doesn’t need to be validated by any man. You like that she is comfortable in her own skin and speaks her mind. She challenges you, and that scares you.
Well, since you need me to spell it out, there are several excellent reasons why you would be lucky, honoured even, to date a feminist.
SHE DOES NOT DEPEND ON YOU FOR VALIDATION
Shebi men are always complaining about how women are clingy and emotionally cloying? Well, this feminist does not wait for you to tell her she’s beautiful and has worth before believes it. She knows herself, and even when she’s unsure, she doesn’t fall apart. She knows she is worth every effort she puts into making herself look and feel good, and accepts yours as her due.
SHE HAS HER OWN MONEY AND HUSTLE
“Women are so materialistic!” I have news for you-she’s got her own money! No matter how small she earns, she knows that she earned it by her effort and she is proud of that. This means that she doesn’t need “maintenance money” at the end of every month. It amuses me how men complain that women only want them for their money, yet criticize women who don’t even notice their financial position.
SHE WILL CHALLENGE YOU AND PUSH YOU
This is no yes woman, dude. She will call bullshit if you try to finagle your way out of what you’re supposed to do. You cannot lazy your life away while you are with her, because she expects you to be as successful and productive as you can be and she will no cut you any slack. You will see the results in your continued success as you help each other to greater heights.
On second thoughts, if you’re a lazy man you should definitely stay away from this queen.
SHE CAN SUPPORT YOU WHEN THINGS GET ROUGH
Remember when I said she’s got her own dough? That means that she will always be an equal partner financially, and even if things get rough and you cannot provide, she can fill in the gaps and cover up your inadequacy. No one will have a clue that you are having difficulties because your woman can and will stand by and with you.
SHE IS CONFIDENT AND IT IS SEXY
You know you like how she is comfortable whether she is wearing makeup or not. She does not validate herself by the standards of others. She likes herself, pure and simple. How hot is that?
Put on your big boy pants and do the needful, approach her as an equal and even if she rejects you, know that she has excellent reasons for everything she does. You’d be lucky to have her.